Yes, it is true that there are children who do nothing at home, but you must make an analysis of why this is so. What guidelines, norms or limits exist in your home? Are they appropriate for your children’s age and ability, or do you tend to do things for them to go faster or do them better and “your way”?
It is important that you take into account the age of your children when you establish the tasks of the house , because they should not be the same tasks in a 6-year-old child as in a 16-year-old adolescent. Obviously, a teenager should have more responsibilities according to their capacity .
If you apply ineffective rules at home, you will have to raise them again (it is never too late) so that the situation improves and your children begin to acquire new habits of care and responsibility at home, at study, in their autonomy and in their own behavior.
It is necessary that your children gradually acquire autonomy with routines and daily habits, following rules and limits. At first it may seem tired, because you will have to go behind … But in the long run, you will see what you should have done since you were very young.
Children and adolescents quickly learn what is expected of them if you tell them clearly. Don’t expect that if they’ve never done it before, they will tidy up their bedroom or do the dishes if you don’t tell them first. You must establish daily routines, so that, over time, that habit is automated and they begin to do it on their own, without you having to ask them. In this way, it is how the internal responsibilities in children begin … and it is essential for their development
Obligations at home
All members of a family must have obligations at home to find balance. They must be responsible for:
- Your study
- Your toilet
- His bedroom
- Set and clear the table
- Help clean the dishes
- Make your bed
Tasks can be increased or decreased depending on their age and ability. But only when they have finished doing their tasks will they be able to have certain privileges such as playing the console or mobile, going out with friends, etc.
It is the best way for them to become habits, and it is necessary to start from when they are little. As they grow older, it will be more difficult for them to change their behavior, but it will never be impossible… If they acquire good habits from a young age, they will be able to maintain them when they are older.